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The book and the card game on a phone (shown printed; the book is a PDF)The book coverInside the book: a writing page (shown printed; the book is a PDF)The game: the start of round 1, How we got hereThe game: round 3, picking three cardsThe game: your vow notes at the end of the eveningEverything together: book, game and notes (shown printed; the book is a PDF)
PDF book + browser card game
Vows That Last — Book + Card Game
“It’s not just a game with questions. It’s much more.”M&L, test couple · Read what our test couples say
For the first 100 couples only. Our test couples’ feedback has been amazing, and we want yours to make it even better. Then €39.One price for both of you.
- A short guide and workbook as a PDF (68 pages, only 40 to read) and a seven-round card game
- The game runs in the browser on one phone, in one evening or spread over several
- After the game you have seven promises to start from
- For any ceremony, wherever you come from and whatever you believe
Instant access: right after payment you get an email with the PDF and your sign-in link for the game. You can start tonight.
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What’s inside
It’s not your fault the page is still blank.
Everyone tells you to start with the words: a template, a quote, a blank document at midnight. That’s the wrong place to start. The best vows aren't written, they are remembered
The way inPlay one evening of the card game together. It’s fun, it’s easy, and while you talk it collects the source material for your vows.
Examples of what ends up in your notes
The night my dad was in hospital, you drove four hours and slept in the plastic chair.
Our first flat had no heating. You knitted us both terrible scarves.
When I lost my job, you made pancakes and said: we’ll figure it out.
Shown printed. The book is a PDF that you can read on screen or print at home. The notes are examples.
The book
A short guide and workbook: 68 pages, only 40 to read. The other 28 are room to write with clear instructions
PDF · read on screen or print at home
The card game
Seven rounds on one phone, from the beginning of your story to the promises you want to make. Pass on any question.
In your phone’s browser · nothing to install
Your vow notes
Said about you
“You make every room calmer.”
A moment you could tell
“Grandma’s soup, every Sunday.”
A promise to start from
When ___, I will ___, because ___.
Your vow notes
At the end of the game, each of you gets one page with:
- the best things your partner said about you
- the moments you told each other, one line each
- seven promises to start from, in the shape “When …, I will …, because …”
Saved at the end of the evening
The card game
One evening. Seven rounds.
A guided evening for the two of you, on one phone.
You take turns answering the questions: you talk them through out loud and type short answers in the app as you go. The rounds move from where you’ve been, to who you are for each other now, to what you want to promise for the years ahead. By the end, everything you wrote is saved in your vow notes.
- 1How we got here · the beginning of your story, in detail
- 2What I’d tell a stranger about you · how you see each other
- 3The times you showed up · the moments nobody said thank you for
- 4Both of us · the stories you tell together
- 5What we came through · the hard stretches you got through together
- 6Where the road gets rough · what you want to promise for hard days
- 7The part you’ll say out loud · your promises, in your own words
“It was valuable to stop and think about the harder days and difficult times in life. … You discover whether you’re on the same page.”
S&J, about round 5 · translated from DutchPass on any question. Stop after any round and pick it up whenever you like.
How it works
Stories first, then words, then promises.
Stories
Play the card game together, one evening on one phone. Seven rounds of questions bring back the stories you’ve already lived.
So you start with something real, not a blank page.
Words
Everything you typed during the game ends up in your vow notes: the moments you told and the words your partner used about you.
So the words are already there before you start on your vows.
Promises
The short guide and its writing pages help you shape those words into promises: “When …, I will …, because …”.
So you end up with vows you’re proud to say out loud.
No waiting. The email arrives right after payment, so you can start with the game tonight. The guide is short, and it’s there when you’re ready to write.
Product details
What you’ll discover, what you get, and what you need.
- How to write vows that sound like the two of you, even if neither of you is a writer.
- Say goodbye to the blank page. The game hands you the source material in one evening.
- Why starting with stories works better than starting with words.
- Where to find the stories your vows are made of. Hint: you’ve already lived them.
- Seven rounds, seven promises to start from, each one about something real.
- The truth about borrowed lines from the internet, and why they never sound like you.
- What to do if your partner says “I’m just not good at this.”
- How to start tonight, even if your wedding is only a few weeks away.
- Includes: the guide and workbook (PDF) and the card game, sold as one bundle
- Book: PDF, 68 pages: 40 to read, 28 to write in. On screen or printed at home
- For: two people, one purchase for both of you
- Card game: seven rounds in the browser on one phone. No scores, nothing to install
- Time: book about two hours; game one evening, or spread over several
- You end up with: your vow notes and seven promises to start from
- Ceremony: any ceremony. It doesn’t matter where you come from or what you believe: this adds to it
- You need: one phone, a quiet evening, and something to write with
- Delivery: by email, right after payment. No waiting: you can start tonight
From our test couples
“It’s the kind of book you didn’t know you needed.”
E&T, about the book
It’s not just ‘a game with questions’. It’s much more. … Some questions made us think about our relationship in a different way. And it’s not only about the nice things, but also about how you deal with harder times and how you see your future together.
We already notice how much the game helps us communicate better. We talk a lot anyway, but it makes us think in a different way, and sometimes we discover new things about each other.
The book helps turn the conversations from the game into a good vow. You often hear beautiful words at a ceremony, but hardly anything of it stays with you afterwards.
Translated from Dutch. From couples who tested Vows That Last before launch.
Everything you get
From empty pages to finished vows.
- The guide and workbook (PDF): 68 pages, only 40 to read, 28 to write in
- The seven-round card game, played on your phone
- Seven promises to start from, in your own words
- For any type of ceremony
Plus four bonuses
Share it with your celebrant
At the end of the game you can easily share your vows with the person leading your ceremony. They’ll love you for it.
The vow community
Access to a closed community of couples who have played the game and finished their vows. Your access link arrives when you finish the game.
Elements of style
Our five best tips for weaving your promises into beautiful stories. Arrives when you finish the game.
Say them with confidence
How to deliver your vows calmly, even if speaking in front of people makes you nervous. Arrives when you finish the game, with a reminder three weeks before your wedding.
Early birdEverything included
For the first 100 couples. Then €39. One price for both of you.
Buy now — €29Buying for an engaged couple? Give it as a gift
- Instant access by email
- All four bonuses included
- 30-day first-vow guarantee
The first-vow guarantee
Read the book and complete its first-vow exercise. If you don’t end up with at least one promise you’d be proud to say on your wedding day, email me within 30 days at [email protected] and I’ll refund your purchase.
No hard feelings.
Inside the book: a writing page (shown printed; the book is a PDF)The game: your vow notes at the end of the eveningThe game: the start of round 1, How we got hereEverything together: book, game and notes (shown printed; the book is a PDF)The game: round 3, picking three cardsThe book coverThe book and the card game on a phone (shown printed; the book is a PDF)
PDF book + browser card game
Get ‘Vows That Last’ — Book + Card Game
For the first 100 couples. Then €39. One price for both of you.
- A short guide and workbook as a PDF (68 pages, only 40 to read) and a seven-round card game
- The game runs in the browser on one phone, in one evening or spread over several
- After the game you have seven promises to start from
- Four bonuses included
Instant access by email. You can start tonight.
Buy now — €29Questions & answers
Anything else? Email [email protected].
Is the book printed?
No. The book is a PDF. You can read it on screen or print it at home. The card game runs in your phone’s browser, so there’s nothing to install.
Our partner isn’t a writer. Will they actually do this?
Yes. You don’t need to be a writer to take part.
The card game starts with questions about things that have happened in your relationship. You’re remembering, talking, and discovering stories together, not trying to write beautiful sentences on the spot.
The book then gives you practical tools to turn those stories into vows.
Will my partner see what I write?
You’ll share stories and have conversations during the game, but each of you writes your own vow.
You can keep your finished vows a surprise until the ceremony if you’d like.
Our wedding is soon. Is there enough time?
If you have a couple of evenings or weekends, you can make a start.
You can play the game in one evening or spread it across several. You don’t need to complete everything in one sitting.
We’ve already started writing. Is it too late?
Not at all.
The game can help you uncover memories and details you haven’t included yet. The book gives you tools to sharpen what you already have, make your promises more specific, and decide which lines belong in your final vows.
We’re already married. Does it work for a vow renewal?
Yes. The game is about the life you’ve already shared, and after years together there’s simply more to draw from: the times you showed up, what you came through, and what you want to promise for the years ahead.
A few questions are written for couples who are about to marry. You can pass on any card that doesn’t fit.
Is it therapy?
No. It’s a practical tool for couples preparing their wedding vows.
It doesn’t replace couples therapy or professional relationship support.
Is it safe to use if we argue?
The game is designed for couples who feel safe talking openly with each other. You can pass on any question.
If your relationship involves fear, control, or harm, don’t use the cards as a way to address that situation. Prioritise your safety and seek support from an appropriate local service.
P.S.
This is not for couples who are just dating.
Vows That Last is made for people who are actually getting married, because it goes deeper than most couples expect. We’re not therapists, and we can’t fix a relationship. But from the feedback we’ve had so far, we’ve seen powerful things come up when couples play it.
If you’re about to say your vows, that’s exactly what you want.
Vows That Last is not therapy or counselling. It does not replace professional relationship support. If your relationship involves fear or harm, please prioritise your safety and reach out to an appropriate local support service.
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